How to Have Safe Phone Sex

No matter if it’s long distance relationship or phone sex, both can be extremely satisfying experiences if done responsibly and safely. Therefore, taking some precautionary steps before getting involved to ensure a positive and safe experience can only enhance this potential pleasure.

Expert sex educator and author Jess Sage suggests asking your partner what turns them on in an informal, nonchalant manner in order to recreate some of those pleasures online. You could also request their description of body talk (“verbs,” as Sage calls them) such as where they like feeling pressure or where their erections feel good if possible.

Once both partners agree to give phone sex a try, set aside an uninterrupted period. “It is best to do it at night when both partners are feeling in the right state of mind,” advises clinical sexologist and expert from Je Joue Ness Cooper’s sex toy company Je Joue Ness Cooper. Additionally, be clear about why you’re engaging in phone sex and its emotional goals for both of you. Porno

As you both get in the mood, Michels suggests exploring books, songs, TV shows and movies that put you into an inherently sexual mindset. This can help determine what sort of sexual kink you want to explore within the context of your relationship, such as role playing over the phone. She suggests imaging yourself being alone in bed, car back seat Paris or Costco among other sexual settings as an effective practice method.

Make sure both parties involved with phone sex feel comfortable with the power dynamic. Recreating established power dynamics in virtual space is simple: If you’re dominant, for example, tell your partner how and when they should touch you or what toys to use.

Edge can also be explored, pushing the limits of your call by, for instance, talking more freely about yourself while using more sensual tones in conversation or cuing up video if desired – just be careful not to cross over too far!

Never lose sight of the fact that phone sex isn’t all about physical pleasure – it’s also about building intimacy. Therefore, after reaching orgasm it can be beneficial to wind down with laughter or nonsexual conversation after reaching orgasm, to help reconnect emotionally. Remember to kiss your partner at the end of each call (in person if desired, or while still lying together if preferred); this article was originally published by Mashable.